From Emily Post's Etiquette (1922):
For years we Americans have swarmed over the face of the world, taking it for granted that the earth's surface belongs to us because we can pay for it, and it is rather worse than ever since the war, when the advantages of exchange add bitterness to irritation. And yet there are many who are highly indignant when told that, as a type, we are not at all admired abroad. Instead of being indignant, how much simpler and better it would be to make ourselves admirable, especially since it is those who most lack cultivation who are most indignant. The very well-bred may be mortified and abashed, but they can't be indignant except with their fellow countrymen who by their shocking behavior make Europe's criticism just. Understanding of, and kind-hearted consideration for the feelings of others are the basic attributes of good manners. Without observation, understanding is impossible—even in our own country where the attitude of our neighbors is much the same as our own. It is not hard to appreciate, therefore, that to understand the point of view of people entirely foreign to ourselves, requires intuitive perception as well as cultivation in a very high degree.
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I must agree with Ms. Emily and disagree with Ms. Jessica! I think Americans abroad are often horrid and loud, much like they are here.
ReplyDeleteWhen I lived in Venice, the touristiest of the touristy, the Midwesterners were the WORST and the Europeans were always nice-niks.
Or then there's my ex-friend who didn't understand why the French hated her even though she refused to learn even two words before she went there. ("Why should I have to learn any French if I'm only spending a week there?...")
Another acquaintance of mine spent her entire time in europe beseeching the locals of every city as to the location where she could get a Hamburger, but like, a real one you know?
Hate em!